You know how when you’re really messed up and you reach out to EVERY friend? You text them ALL at once in case the one person you really want to talk to isn’t responding IMMEDIATELY. And then you feel kind of dirty after because you got all frantic and spread your nuttiness around when really, you could have just connected with your one friend who tells you the truth every single time?

I think it works the same way with angels and cosmic guides.

I used to call on ALL of them. Simultaneously. Dear God, Goddess, Archangel Michael, Lakshmi, Saraswati, Metatron, Gabriel, Raphael, Saint Anthony, Mary Magdalene and Jesus Christ. (Take a deep inhale…) Buddha, Saint Germaine, and Durga. (Pause). And Kali. (How could I forget Goddess Kali?!) And Eva LeFay (she was my Yellow Lab, now in doggy heaven. A pet psychic told me that she would always be protecting me, so yep, I’d call on that dog.)

Pain and confusion can make you frantic. Unfortunately, frantic doesn’t do anything efficiently. It spills energy all over the place, it can’t see what’s right in front of it. One of the premises of spiritual growth is that we can keep our cool in chaos. Focus over frantic. Friends appreciate that kind of steadfast behaviour, and so do our spiritual guides.

You’re in a relationship with great cosmic beings. You are that cool. And they’re that beneficent. Of course these benevolent, beautiful forces want to, and will, help all who come calling.

You can get some love from whomever you turn to. But why not go for intimacy? And efficacy? Depth. Why not invest in the relationship for a greater return? And this… how about trusting — trusting in your chosen Goddess or your most resonant spiritual deity.

Trusting in the power that you are turning to them for.

It’s easier to listen to just a few voices than many. 

It will take some time to find the relationship and to grow together. And like all relationships, from heavenly to earthly, respect is key and intimacy is the reward. Stay calm, turn to your few beloveds, and let them love you.

Danielle LaPorte is an invited member of Oprah’s SuperSoul 100, a group who, in Oprah Winfrey’s words, “is uniquely connecting the world together with a spiritual energy that matters.” She is author of White Hot Truth: Clarity for keeping it real on your spiritual path—from one seeker to another. The Fire Starter Sessions, and The Desire Map: A Guide To Creating Goals With Soul—the book that has been translated into 8 languages, evolved into a yearly day planner system, a top 10 iTunes app, and an international workshop program with licensed facilitators in 15 countries.

Named one of the “Top 100 Websites for Women” by Forbes, millions of visitors go to DanielleLaPorte.com every month for her daily #Truthbombs and what’s been called “the best place online for kickass spirituality.” A speaker, a poet, a painter, and a former business strategist and Washington-DC think tank exec, Entrepreneur Magazine calls Danielle, “equal parts poet and entrepreneurial badass…edgy, contrarian…loving and inspired.” Her charities of choice are Eve Ensler’s VDay: a global movement to end violence against women and girls, and charity: water, setting out to bring safe drinking water to everyone in the world. She lives in Vancouver, BC with her favourite philosopher, her son. You can find her @daniellelaporte and just about everywhere on social media.