You cannot screw up your destiny. It is impossible to miss out or mess up something that you are meant to experience.

Hopefully this is reassuring to you.

It may be especially reassuring if you are agonizing over a current decision or over-thinking a choice you already made. Fear of “choosing wrong” keeps you in states of limbo or regret – ugh, who wants that? If you truly had faith in the knowing that you cannot screw up your destiny, would you trust your choices more? And could you free yourself from paralysis by analysis?

Now you may be asking, “What about free will? Don’t we have that?” Absolutely we do! Having choice is what is so fun about being human. But what is not so fun about being human is not having faith that every choice we make is the “right” choice.

Trust me, there are no “wrong” choices. There are simply consequences of each choice that shapes the manner in which our destiny unfolds but truly cannot screw it up.

We think in life there is some “there” we are supposed to get to, or some “something” we are supposed to do or some “someone” we are supposed to meet. We then believe that our destiny is defined by the theres, somethings and someones. And if we don’t choose right, we’ll miss out on the theres, somethings and someones.

Perhaps a more helpful way to perceive destiny is that it encompasses all the things we are here to learn in life. From everything I’ve studied, been taught, observed and experienced in my own life, I trust that we all come into life with our own unique curriculum. So our destiny is more about what we are here to learn rather than getting to a there, doing a something, or meeting a somebody. The people we meet along the way and situations we are involved simply serve as teachers that help us learn and experience what we are destined to learn and experience.

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But again, what about free will?

Free will shapes your destiny because the choices you make influence how and when you learn the lessons you are destined to learn and have the experiences you are destined to experience. For example, let’s say it is part of your destiny to truly understand and embody courage. In order for that to happen, you will have to experience things that give you the opportunity to practice being courageous. Your choices along your life journey will impact how that happens. Maybe you will choose into a relationship that is difficult and you will have to find the courage to leave. Or maybe you will be in situations where you choose to speak your truth even if it is not accepted.

Think of it like this: imagine that your life is a treasure map and the pot of gold represents what you are destined to experience. The choices you make along the way simply impact the route you toward that pot of gold. There is not just one route to get there – there are many paths that you could possibly take. That means there are MANY choices you can make in your life, which will all eventually lead you to the same destination. Free will just impacts the how and when. But you can relax in the knowing that you will indeed reach the pot of gold.

The Universe is always looking out for you. It will continue to send you opportunities to direct you toward your destiny. And if you miss a sign, It will keep sending you more. You are never off course.

Your own inner wisdom is your internal GPS so that you will never get totally lost. Sure you may feel a bit disorientated at times, but trust that your Higher Self knows your destiny.  The more you are in communication with your Higher Self, rather than your ego, the more direct your route will be.

Trust that if there is something you are destined to experience, you will experience it.

Trust that if there are things you are destined to do, you will do them.

Trust that if there is someone you are destined to meet, you will meet him or her.

This does not mean that you can just stay home and wait for destiny to knock at your door. Part of what moves you along the treasure map of your life is taking action. Your destiny is not just a pot of gold at the end of your life. It is present each and every day.

Choose to accept everything you are experiencing in life and see it all as part of your destiny.

Choose to do things that are the most authentic expression of the Love that you are.

Choose to surround yourself with people that are aligned with your values and create relationships based on Truth and Love.

But remember to CHOOSE. Being in paralysis by analysis because you are buying into the misunderstanding that you can somehow screw up your destiny is like pressing the pause button on your life. Press play!

Again, you cannot screw up your destiny but you can shape how you will experience it. Have faith, trust the Uni-verse and your Higher Self, and relax in the knowing that every person and situation in your life is giving you a beautiful glimpse of your pot of gold.

Love,
Christine

“I seldom end up where I wanted to go, but almost always end up where I need to be.” – Douglas Adams

Christine Hassler has broken down the complex and overwhelming experience of recovering from disappointment into a step-by-step treatment plan in her new book Expectation Hangover. This book reveals the formula for how to process disappointment on the emotional, mental, physical, and spiritual levels to immediately ease suffering. Instead of wallowing in regret, self-recrimination, or anger, we can see these experiences as catalysts for profound transformation and doorways that open to possibility. You can find more info on her website, and follow her on Twitter and FB.