Every year around the end of February, I feel like I start to lose my mind. So, yes, right about now.

It’s the time of year when winter in Ohio feels like it’s never going to leave, and getting my hands in the dirt again and going for bike rides and kayaking seems like a distant dream. Instead, we have frigid, gray days where going outside is, of course, possible, but in limited spurts.

By this time of year, my hunger for spring and summer starts to consume me. I crave the smell of the earth, having coffee at dawn on the porch watching the sunrise, and being outdoors the entire day playing, planting seeds, and feeling the sun on my skin.

A pandemic in winter adds an extra layer to this feeling of frustration I’ve been wrestling with. It’s made me even more eager for connection, nature and the sun to shine again. It’s not an easy task to remain hopeful that spring will be here soon and maybe we can have birthday parties again, see our families, hug each other tightly, or even see each other smile.

So, what to do in this interim time while the sun is hiding, while we have to wear masks and wait for the darkness to lift?

Keep moving forward, knowing we’ll get there. Some days I’m not great at that.

The other day my husband was taking all the kids sledding. Normally, I would join them, but I have let winter defeat me so much that I didn’t feel like going. The thought of putting on so many layers I can barely move, did not appeal to me. The idea of staying home in a quiet house with a cup of tea? Now that I could get behind.

But then my son, whose emotions are wired similar to mine, told me I should come because I would have fun. He reminded me it would be worth it to push myself to get outside. He told me I always have fun being silly outside, so I should do it.

Dangit. He’s right, I thought.

When we got to the sledding hill, the prospect of climbing it made us all groan a bit. My son, who is the youngest, was walking the slowest, so I stayed back with him. We had been to that hill before, and every time we go, he gets frustrated by the climb.

I told him, “Remember what I said last time. Don’t look at the top of the hill. Focus on this step right now. Put your head down, take 20 steps, and then stop, and look up. Then look behind you to see the progress you’ve made. Do that a few times, and your big task of climbing this huge hill is then a bunch of small goals that aren’t so overwhelming.”

As usual, the pep talk worked, and it got him motivated to take on these small attainable goals along the way instead of being intimidated by the enormity of climbing to the top. After his first trip to the top, he didn’t have to count his steps again because he proved to himself that he could do it, and so he did.

That same sort of thinking can be applied to everything in life, right?

We all have these things we want to accomplish, and some are so big and beyond our current selves, that we don’t even start because it’s just too much. But what if we take a few steps toward it, stop and give ourselves credit to keep the embers of hope burning?