Every worldly success I’ve experienced grew from me falling flat on my face.
I wrote and self-published 126 bite-sized eBooks on Amazon after I sold only four copies of my first eBook over four months.
I sold my first online course only after the sales page registered over 8,000 views.
My first post submitted here on Positively Positive failed to be published.
What did I do wrong during those failures?
Nothing.
I simply cleared the fear associated with these failures to make room for success.
Failure isn’t your greatest teacher. Failing just clears fears that need to go for you to succeed. @RyanBiddulph (Click to Tweet!)
What Is Failure?
Failure is a fear-clearing event. When I went bankrupt over 10 years ago I cleared many highly charged fears related to:
- losing money
- losing my reputation
- feeling ashamed around family and friends
Thank goodness I went bankrupt. Otherwise, I’d still carry the heaven burden of these fears and I never would have lived my dreams.
Own Your Failures to Release Your Fears
Failure imprisons you until you own the event and fears related to the failure.
During my security guard days I worked with a millionaire. He could have easily invested a hefty chunk of his fortune in the stock market to never work again. But he worked the second shift as a security guard in a shipping terminal and the first shift at a big box retailer.
Why?
He needed benefits and wanted something to do after retiring but regularly noted how he lost a fortune during a stock market crash and vowed many times to “never do that again.”
His investment failure and associated fear prevented him from making more sound, intelligent investment decisions that would have yielded steady dividends over the long haul and a life of freedom. He chose instead to work 16 hours a day for a little over minimum wage.
What failures did you suffer through in the past? Have you owned these events and the associated fears you may still feel concerning these failures?
If you see any failure as a simple event rather than a crippling jailer you begin to reframe this concept.
List Your Failures
Create a list of particularly painful failures.
Write the failures on a piece of paper.
Spend some time feeling fears that arise as you dwell on the mishaps.
Feel the fear to clear these energies and to remove the emotional charge from the event.
Removing the emotional charge helps you instantly reframe failure from devastating disaster to fear clearing event.
Every failure I experienced removed the burden of illusory fear so instead of saying to myself, “I’ll never do that again!” I say to myself “I can do that from a fun-loving, intelligent energy, without being saddled by fear.”
I feel like I’m sprinting when other people are crawling because I failed so many times and clear so many deep fears that much of what I do online and offline feels effortless. I do not fear falling flat on my face. Nor do I worry about losing money. I cleared those deep fears years ago. By failing.
Don’t Analyze Failure Just Clear the Fear
Don’t bother poring over failure. Just feel the failure-fear and the lesson reveals itself instantly.
Feeling failure is not a pleasant experience but purging emotions related to these events leads to increased happiness, clarity of thought and progressive success.
Plus you see failure for what it is; a fear clearing event and nothing more.
Failing horribly and being with your failure-induced feelings may just make you the happiest you’ve ever been.
Ryan Biddulph is a blogger, author and world traveler who’s been featured on Richard Branson’s Virgin Blog, Forbes, Fox News, Entrepreneur, Positively Positive, Life Hack, John Chow Dot Com and Neil Patel Dot Com. He has written and self-published 126 bite-sized eBooks on Amazon. Ryan can help you build a successful blog at Blogging From Paradise.
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