Do you feel like everyone else got the memo on how to find the right person, get married and get on with life that somehow you missed? Do you secretly wonder “When will it be my turn? What am I doing wrong?” If you are nodding your head right now, this week’s Real Love Revolution video is for you!

I’m going to help you change your “luck” in love, by covering:

• How creating and attracting healthy love has nothing to do with luck
• Common relationship mistakes that make people believe they’re “unlucky”
• The factors that impact someone attracting a healthy relationship
• How to remain empowered and motivated while dating

There are many reasons people feel like they’re unlucky in love. One that I have seen repeatedly is mistaking lust for love. You may have physical chemistry but that does not always equate to psychological and emotional compatibility. Another is mistaking flash for substance. Someone trying to impress you by taking you to a fancy restaurant can be seductive but not nearly as important as them being a good listener or a decent human being. Lastly, is mistaking words for actions. Lofty promises or flattery is nice but actions and accountability are the foundations for a real relationship.

My theory as a psychotherapist and a relationship expert is that there really is no luck when it comes to love.

There are other factors that impact how well you know how to attract a healthy relationship. One of those factors is your downloaded love blueprint. In this blueprint, there will be a few key questions that you can ask yourself about your family of origin and your parent’s marriage, which will give you some insight into your internal paradigm around romantic relationships.

It’s time to commit to throwing out the idea of luck altogether – luck means it’s in someone else’s hands. To change your “luck” around love, you must make the decision to fall madly and deeply in love with yourself.

Get to know yourself and your love blueprint, and then be willing to stay in the game. Everyone has bad experiences. You can let the bad relationships define you and decide you are “unlucky in love,” or you can push forward. The bad experiences let you learn something about yourself. So let’s lose the phrase “unlucky in love,” and move towards being empowered, which means doing something and being willing to be vulnerable. Learn after every bad date. You have to be willing to deal with yourself and confront your insecurities because your limiting beliefs have everything to do with what is happening.

Let’s lose the phrase “unlucky in love,” and move towards being empowered. @terri_cole (Click to Tweet!)

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Thanks for watching, reading, and sharing!

And as always, take care of YOU.

Terri Cole is a licensed psychotherapist, transformation coach, and an expert at turning fear into freedom. Sign up for Terri’s weekly Newsletter, check out her blog and follow her on Twitter.