Are you a giving person? Do you find that you are a magnet for takers?
If you attract partners and pals who love to talk about themselves, are easily offended, exaggerate their accomplishments, believe they are above the rules and expect “special” treatment then today’s Real Love Revolution video about the damage and danger of dating a narcissist is for YOU!
Does the above description resonate with you? Does it perhaps remind you of your partner or one of your parents? Or can you see yourself in there? When it comes to being in a relationship with a narcissist, it’s difficult to find any real intimacy because everything is about your functionality in their life. Narcissists can love only on a superficial level. As long as you are doing what they think you are supposed to be doing, all is well. (And when I say “well,” I mean they get what they want and you stay unsatisfied, unseen and unheard.) The moment you deny them exactly what they want, look out! They will explode, get mean and do just about anything to get you back in line with their plan. If you don’t comply, they will leave.
Actions and conversations with a narcissist all revolve around building them up, even when it’s “about you,” it’s really about them – they get to “show you off to their friends.” That isn’t about you at all. It’s about their ego and how you make them look. How can you possibly be your true self in a relationship with someone who only sees you through how you benefit them?
A real relationship requires both parties being witnessed and seen, allowing you both to be authentic in the relationship, and therefore, deepening the intimacy and love.
In this Real Love Revolution video (click HERE to watch now!) you will find:
- A checklist to discover the signs of narcissism
- How to avoid falling in love with a narcissist (Be proactive! Learn about narcissism now and save yourself a world of pain later!)
- Stories and scenarios to help frame what it is like to date a narcissist
- What to do if you are a narcissist (Hint: Therapy)
The first step in dealing with narcissism is to increase your awareness. By recognizing the signs and connecting the dots to your own childhood experiences, you can consciously avoid the taker trap. Check out the full Signs of Narcissism Checklist now to learn how to spot the signs and use it to dive deep into your own life and relationships! Drop me a comment here on the blog and let me know your experience with narcissists and how this video impacted you. And don’t forget to head on over to my YouTube Channel to subscribe for direct AND FREE access to all the past and future Real Love Revolution videos.
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Carefully read through the checklist and use this video to raise your awareness around this topic. Dating a narcissist can be exhausting and painful –
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And as always, take care of you.
Terri Cole is a licensed psychotherapist, transformation coach, and an expert at turning fear into freedom. Sign up for Terri’s weekly Newsletter, check out her blog and follow her on Twitter.
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