Does it feel light, or does it feel heavy?

An idea surfaces. An opportunity. A fork in the road. A big decision. Little decisions that make up your life.

And maybe it sounds right or looks good at first. It could make you money. It’s there for the taking. It’d be easy to pull off. We so know how to do this. It’s in our wheelhouse. I’ve done it before. Easy. It’s “on-brand.” They’ll love this. They expect this. They want this. They’re clamouring for this. Let’s give them what they want. It seems like the next logical step. Let’s move in together, we’ll save on rent.

But…

Does it feel light, or does it feel heavy?

The truth of feelings trumps the strategy of logic. @DanielleLaPorte (Click to Tweet!)

It’s so simple it’s brilliantly clarifying: Does it feel light, or does it feel heavy? It works for creative focus, and money management, and dinner reservations. It works for deciding where to give your time, your expertise, your Love, your devotion.

Light-based choosing lights you up. You feel a sense of expansion. You feel slightly or immensely relieved. You can hear your invisible support squad saying, “Uhhuh, we got ya.”

Now here’s the thing. The “light” choice, isn’t necessarily the easy choice. Light is RIGHT. Light will return your investment. Light is deeeeep fulfillment. And, the light choice may require courage, and sweat, and a ruddy determination. The light choice may look crazy to everyone else.

But what’s the alternative? Heavy. And heavy brings resentment, and constricted self expression, and it’s anything but good times, or sexy, or … LIGHT.

Don’t say Yes until it feels light.

Danielle LaPorte is the creator of The Desire Map: A Guide To Creating Goals With Soul — the book that turned into a day planner system, a top iTunes app, and an international workshop program. A Desire Map workshop happens every weekend somewhere in the world. Author of The Fire Starter Sessions and the wildly popular #Truthbomb series, Danielle is also the co-creator of Your Big Beautiful Book Plan and co-host of the Beautiful Writer’s Group podcast.

Entrepreneur Magazine calls her “equal parts poet and entrepreneurial badass…edgy, contrarian…loving and inspired.” A speaker, poet, former business strategist and Washington-DC think tank exec, she writes weekly at DanielleLaPorte.com, where over four million visitors have gone for her straight-up advice — a site that’s been deemed “the best place online for kick-ass spirituality,” and was named one of the “Top 100 Websites for Women” by Forbes. The Huffington Post named her Twitter feed as one of the “12 of Wisest Twitter Accounts Worth Following.” You can find her @daniellelaporte just about everywhere.