“Who run the world? GIRLS!” ~Beyonce
If given the task, I believe you could probably run the world. You already run your home, family, and a successful career, while juggling all of the day-to-day tasks required to make life work. You’re independent and you know how to get sh*t done.
Sometimes you may wish you had more help, but let’s face it, no one else is as efficient and precise as you. Delegating may be difficult because you believe if you want something done right, you’ve got to do it yourself. Time and time again you’ve been proven right when others reveal their inability to get the job done properly. As a result your to-do list is never-ending—though there are moments when you realize you could really use a break.
Never ASKING for or ACCEPTING Help BLOCKS Intimacy #JustSayThanks @Terri_Cole
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If this sounds at all like you, then it’s time to ask for help, as resistant as you may be. You may have become accustomed to doing it all on your own. Perhaps you don’t want to “bother” or “burden” friends, family or colleagues by asking for help, insight or guidance. Or you simply don’t trust other people to do a job as well as you.
However, this do-it-yourself habit can create feelings of isolation. Not to mention that going at it alone is a lot less fun.
The World Will be Saved by the Western Woman ~Dalai Lama
I agree with the Dalai Lama but want to add; she won’t be doing it alone. The Superwoman Syndrome—doing it all on your own—is so last decade! The truth is we all need help and accepting it is an important part of success, joy and freedom. At some point you have to ask yourself what’s more important: spending extra hours at the office to make sure every piece of a project is ‘perfect’ or delegating some tasks to ensure you have more free time to take care of yourself and to be present to what matters?
Whether it’s the clerk asking if you need help carrying grocery bags or a coworker offering to fill out spreadsheets, accept the help. Allow other people to give to you as you so graciously give to others. There is no better feeling than helping someone out, so don’t deny another person that joy.
For the next seven days I want to challenge you to only use the words “Yes” and “Thank you” when you are offered help. Even if you feel like you could do it better, or that you really don’t need the help, accept it anyway. Get into the habit of letting people give to you. No one is meant to go at it alone, including you.
In the comments below type “I’m in” and commit to the challenge. I know this may not feel comfortable but it can be fun. Take this opportunity and enjoy the time you save not trying to get it all done solo. Remember help is not a four letter word (at least not a bad one).
As always take care of you.
Love Love Love
Terri
Terri Cole is a licensed psychotherapist, transformation coach, and an expert at turning fear into freedom. Sign up for Terri’s weekly Tune Up Tips and follow her on Twitter.
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