I wrote this for the fence-sitters.
Whenever I’m faced with making a decision, this is what I do to ensure that I make the right choice every time.
If you use this method, you will never make a wrong decision.
Step 1: Get clear on what the options are.
Step 2: Close your eyes and take three deep breaths into your lower belly.
Step 3: Bring to mind your first option. Don’t think about it too hard, just focus gently on it.
Step 4: Notice how your body feels. Does it feel expansive or contracted? Expansive feels like when you’re playing with a puppy or holding a baby. It feels open hearted and light. Contracted feels heavy, tight, limited, and darker. It feels like anxiety, depression, worry, or doubt.
Step 5: If you feel expansive when you focus on the first option, it’s a yes! If you feel contracted, it’s a no.
Step 6: Go through steps 3-5 for each option you have.
Your body will tell you what is right for you. She’s your wisest ally, and she’ll never steer you wrong.
Cool, right?
Now, you may ask, what if I feel fear? Is that expansive or contracted?
Only your body will truly tell you which one it is. If you’re unsure, run through steps 1-6 again and really tune in to how your body is feeling.
Fear often comes up when we’re about to do something that takes us out of our comfort zone. But there’s a difference between the fear that comes up to keep you safe, like when you decide not to walk down a dark alley alone at 3:00 a.m., and the fear that comes up when you’re about to leave your comfort zone.
If you truly tune in to the feeling in your body, the fear of leaving your comfort zone will feel expansive. My friend and speaking teacher, Gail Larsen, says: “Fear is just excitement without the breath.”
And remember:
None of the good stuff happens on the fence.
Life doesn’t move forward on the fence.
Businesses don’t get built on the fence.
Dreams aren’t achieved on the fence.
The world isn’t changed by people who hang out on the fence.
It’s time to get off the fence.
Kate Northrup is a professional freedom seeker and creative entrepreneur and mentors entrepreneurs in creating their own financial freedom. She created financial freedom for herself at the age of twenty-eight through building a team of more than 1,000 wellness entrepreneurs in the network marketing industry. Her philosophy is that if you free yourself financially, you can be fully present to your purpose on the planet. Find out more and take her free Money Love Quiz to find out what your relationship with money says about you at KateNorthrup.com and follow her on Twitter and Facebook.
