Have you ever been like, “When is it gonna be my turn?” Why do I have to wait? Why aren’t my dreams happening now? Have you found yourself scrolling through timelines on Facebook comparing theirs to yours? Saying, “why not me?” I want that too, and I want it now.”
In today’s social media age, you have even more options available for comparing your life to the lives of other people and this can cause a case of what I call the “comparison blues.”
Who is getting featured in the latest magazine, who is madly in love, who got married, who had a baby, who is looking like they are healthy as can be, and who is having the time of their lives every weekend. It’s like jealousy overload with every swipe on social media. It causes people to stop looking at what they are doing right and makes them feel that all is going wrong, or isn’t happening fast enough. And that, well, that just sucks and causes massive feelings of despair, sadness, funk, and perhaps even depression.
It’s time to stop comparing and realize that all good things take time. @CosmicChristine
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What people usually show is the RESULT of all that they have worked on and post what’s happy in their lives. It’s rare to show the nitty gritty struggle on Facebook or Instagram. So I dare you to stop comparing today.
Here are 3 tips to enjoy your unique process now.
- Choose three things that you are incredibly proud of yourself for. When we are waiting for something else to happen and getting mad that it isn’t happening now, we often forget the things that are going right. So today, celebrate you, by choosing three things that you are grateful for TODAY. Share them with me!
- Repeat this to yourself as your mantra “My life is unique and I have a divine plan unfolding specifically for me.” Remind yourself that your life is so unique and therefore someone else’s life would actually never make you happy, because your life is uniquely you. Trust and know that your life is so perfect because its uniquely yours. There can never be another you.
- Lastly, I want you to put the focus on your timeline. Don’t look at Facebook or Instagram for a while if you need to. Put the focus back on you and ask yourself this question, “What do I truly desire to do?” Then, commit to taking one step to fulfilling that desire. Schedule it today. The more you are living your desires, the less you have time to compare, and the more you see just how happy you are to live what is meant for you.
Remember, time will pass on by anyway, so decide to make this TIME, this MOMENT worth it. Decide to start living your dreams today.
If you want to start that business, start it. If you want to date more, get out there and smile your beautiful heart out. If you want to say you’re sorry, then do it.
I promise you when you shift the focus on living YOUR life versus comparing your life to their life, you will soon realize that this is the magic to make you happy. As the famous quote says, “Comparison is the thief of joy.” And as I say, living your desires, is the bringer of joys. So today, I dare you to live your unique life and bring on the joy!
Christine Gutierrez is a psychotherapist, advice columnist, speaker, author, poet, and founder of CosmicLife.com, an online hub that features psychologically-savvy and soulful advice, articles, videos, private consultations, workshops, retreats (both live and virtual), radio appearances, and television projects. “Ancient wisdom with a modern twist” is the motto. She has been featured in TimeOut NY Magazine, Latina Magazine as “The Future 15: The Healer,” Yahoo Health, Ebony Magazine, Cosmopolitan for Latinas, The Conversation, Cosmopolitan Magazine, Ricki Lake, Lifetime TV, and more. You can also follow Christine on Twitter and Facebook. Grab a a free worksheet on How to Break Free from Self-Sabotage in Love+ Relationships by signing up here: www.fiercelovefiercelife.com.
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